Why I Have Not And Probably Will NEVER Get Over Losing Prince

Picture it 1984, it was a Sunday, I remember because that was “movie day” for my 3 siblings and I. Mommy would take us from Bushwick to Flatbush to that big movie theater, it might be Kings Theater now, not sure, it’s been so long. But what I do remember is her taking us to see Purple Rain.  I vaguely remember his songs before going to see that movie, but I remember knowing every word, every song, every eye movement, every dance, every punchline when I walked out of that theater. I wasn’t even 10 years old when that movie came out.  But I remember falling in love with this pretty, sexy mother &%O*%_# who humped stages; Continue reading

What We Can Learn From Halle Berry

I want to talk about all of the “Halle Berry’s” in the world.

The Halle Berry’s of the world are the women who continue to be in relationship after failing relationship… according to those “Watching” from the sidelines.

Someone on Twitter made the truest statement that Halle Berry has failed marriages and is ridiculed but Steve Harvey is successful for his failed marriages, I mean wtf is that about?

Sista Erykah Badu can have 4 baby daddies and be crowned Queen Pum Pum but because Halle isn’t walking around on her god body shit she’s a failure?  Help me understand people?

Here is the thing.  NOTHING in this world is guaranteed to last forever.  Not your job, your finances, your happiness and not even this precious life you live unfortunately.

If you are mentally healthy then you will continue to grow as the years go on. Your wants change, your desires, change, your needs change.  The more you are exposed to the more you will change.  You do not have any power over the people in your life and what they decide to do with themselves.  You can only love yourself and hope that your mate loves you and loves himself just as much to grow as well.   You are not obligated to play the role of small wonder to make anybody in your life feel big or complete. You are doing yourself a MAJOR disservice if that is the route you choose to go.

There are a lot of women in the world in relationships for 5, 10, 15, 20 years that turn their noses up to women who end relationships in 3 year increments.  Even more disappointing are the men who bash the women who “can’t keep a man.”

Let’s discuss these people shall we? Continue reading